Here’s the $64,000 question: when it comes to your divorce, how would you go about getting your best possible outcome–(1) rely on arbitrary decisions by a third-party, (2) waiting until you’re out of money before conceding, or (3) coming to a mutually supportive agreement with your ex?
If you’ve picked option 3, you’re right. By being willing to accept a lesser degree of conflict and negotiating a fair and reasonable settlement based on shared goals and the free and open exchange of information, couples are able to better provide for them and their families long-term well-being.
The numbers back this up. Based on a study of divorcing Connecticut couples, couples that go through a non-adversarial divorce (mediation, Collaborative Law) have better outcomes than couples that restrict themselves to a court based process.
- Non-adversarial divorces cost less and take less time than adversarial ones.
- Couples had fewer post-decree issues.
- Women who go through a non-adversarial divorce are more likely to receive a higher percentage of family assets, have longer periodic support, and get greater amounts of child support than their adversarial counterparts.
- Men who go through a non-adversarial divorce are more likely to have a higher percentage of family income, enter into co-parenting arrangements (joint custody), and are more likely to have well-defined visitation arrangements.
The bottom line is that a non-adversarial divorce leaves couples in a better position to build their future; having not spent their time and money on conflict, they are able to plan for things like their children’s college education, or developing an opportunity into a business.Tagged with: Co-Parenting • Collaborative Divorce • Collaborative Law • Mediation • non-adversarial divorce