April 26, 2013

The Minimally Invasive Divorce

Collaborative Divorce with DignityIn this article for the Huffington Post, Curtis Harrison posed the question why, in this age of minimally invasive medical procedures, do “people still rely on flint knives and bear skins when getting a divorce?” An apt question given the complexities of family dynamics (especially for families in conflict) and the lengthy healing time required when trauma disrupts relationships.

The courts are a great place for deciding right and wrong, guilty or not, but a system designed to shine the bright light of justice and public review on criminal acts and contract spats does poorly when asked to sort through the layered nuances of divorce and family conflict. The courts look at divorce through the single lens of the law (a one-size-fits-all average solution for the average family, which begs the question: is your family average?). It is a system designed to find a solution – not the optimal solution, a solution – to the question all divorcing couples have: how do we do the right thing when it comes to our children/our finances/our house/etc.

There is an alternative – Collaborative Law or as Mr. Harrison describes it:

a minimally-invasive procedure that is revolutionizing the way couples dissolve their marriages. Collaborative Law is the 21st Century’s cutting-edge alternative method of resolving such disputes without the use of a judge, jury or even a courtroom. This unique approach allows the participants and their respective attorneys to meet privately and work through and resolve every detail of a divorce or family dispute quickly, cost-effectively and in a dignified manner.

While Collaborative Law is not going to be right for every divorcing couple, for those it fits, Collaborative Law offers a process that: allows parents to better shield their children from the trauma of their divorce, and offers divorcing couples the control and autonomy to find their optimal solutions.

Bruce Cameron
Attorney, Cameron Law, PLLC

Bruce Cameron, JD, MS is a second career attorney, practicing Quaker, and advocate for small town law practices. His solo practice focuses exclusively on collaborative law and mediation with just a soupçon of estate planning for excitement. Bruce believes that alternative dispute resolution mechanisms, like collaborative law and mediation, are powerful positive means to reduce the destructive conflict typical of litigation. He has found that a little peacemaking tends to produce better outcomes for his clients. Learn more at www.CameronLawPllc.com

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One Response to The Minimally Invasive Divorce

  1. Mary Antonia Wilmes says:

    Bruce, I really enjoyed this post, and “minimally invasive procedure” is such an appropriate description, and will stay with me.

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