July 3, 2014

The Gift of Opportunity

Opportunity lies behind every closed doorThere is good in everything, if we only look for it   –Laura Ingalls Wilder

The problem is, when faced with adversity, we are very bad at looking. It is far easier to become overwhelmed and discouraged by obstacles; to back away from our highest rational self rather than embracing the opportunity within. Far too often we let our preconceptions define outcome; letting the past dictate what should be. We would not be human if individually we could always remain coolly rational in times of great emotional strain, yet with support it is possible to stand steady and find the gift of opportunity within.

Yet, it is far too common, and quite understandable, for a divorcing couple to see their divorce as an obstacle rather than an opportunity, for all preconceptions tell them that divorce is something of a legal tsunami, bearing down upon them and sweeping all away – its no wonder they flinch. But what would happen if they were to look at this as an opportunity? After all, divorce can be a bridge as well as a wall. Divorce provides a time for our couple to try new tactics, to propose new solutions, to experiment with new communications styles; sure there will be risk, but is the alternative – arguments, stress, and frustration – any better?

But new attitudes and fearlessness does not happen in a vacuum, for without support and a safe environment it is difficult to take a risk and avail oneself of a change to grow. Which is where Collaborative Divorce steps in. Collaborative divorce provides our couple with a safe environment in which to explore the opportunities within their divorce and a team of trained professionals to support them while they do so. The Collaborative process is not about simply seeing divorce in a “glass half full” light, it is about recognizing that beneath that emotionally-repulsive, ugly wrapper is the gift of opportunity, the gift of a family’s future – a positive benefit worth working for – or our couple could simply fight the entire way; the result would be the same, one process simply hurts less.

Bruce Cameron
Attorney, Cameron Law, PLLC

Bruce Cameron, JD, MS is a second career attorney, practicing Quaker, and advocate for small town law practices. His solo practice focuses exclusively on collaborative law and mediation with just a soupçon of estate planning for excitement. Bruce believes that alternative dispute resolution mechanisms, like collaborative law and mediation, are powerful positive means to reduce the destructive conflict typical of litigation. He has found that a little peacemaking tends to produce better outcomes for his clients. Learn more at www.CameronLawPllc.com

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