Tag Archives: parenting plan

August 31, 2016

Spirited Children

My kids are spirited.  Not possessed, although somedays it seems like they are.  I thought the term “spirited child” referred to a child with ADD or ADHD.  Not true.  It’s not a diagnosis – it’s simply temperament.  Thank goodness for Continue reading…

November 5, 2015

New Significant Others After a Divorce

An amicable separation and divorce can sometimes become strained when new relationships start.  New significant others often cause new emotional reactions that can subsequently impact parenting. In order to preemptively address the problems that can arise when new relationships start, in Continue reading…

September 14, 2015

Co-Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex

Categories: Divorce

Co-parenting can be challenging even in the most amicable divorces, but there are some personalities disorders that make co-parenting downright difficult. Among these include, but are not limited to: bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder. We are Continue reading…

April 29, 2015

Dating After Divorce: Preparing the Kids

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

The longer I work as a neutral child specialist, the more important I realize it is to help divorcing parents have meaningful conversations about the possibility that one or both of them will enter into new significant relationships while their Continue reading…

January 27, 2015

Becoming the Best Parent I Can Be

In a recent first meeting with new clients, I was obtaining family history to help ground me in both parents’ perspectives on issues related to their divorce. A comment by the dad struck a chord for me. He said, “I Continue reading…

October 17, 2014

Vacation Time After Divorce

Divorcing parents often wonder how vacations are treated in a parenting plan. There are often three types of vacation options addressed in divorce. Vacation during parenting time. Often parents are each allowed to take unlimited vacations during their scheduled parenting time. There Continue reading…

October 6, 2014

Where Will the Kids Go to School?

It is not uncommon for parents to disagree on school choice. Sometimes parents have differing opinions on the curriculum of a school or certain teachers or even location or class schedule. When children are at natural school moves (such as entering Continue reading…

September 15, 2014

The Collaborative Approach to Child Support

How to provide financially for children after divorce has been a much-discussed topic for decades. Courts have traditionally used child support guidelines established by state government to calculate a monthly payment from one parent to the other. The Minnesota guideline Continue reading…

August 27, 2014

The Value of the Relationship Plan

One of the most valuable outcomes of Collaborative Team Practice for many families is how respectfully the process helps prepare parents for effective co-parenting.  Lee Eddison, a very experienced neutral coach in Collaborative Team Practice, aptly describes this as a Continue reading…

July 21, 2014

Behind the Scenes of a Divorce

Recently I participated in a case debrief with other members of a Collaborative team.  The debrief, or case consultation, is a regular and ordinary part of Collaborative Team Practice.  Any team member can request a debrief to get an update Continue reading…