Tag Archives: neutral child specialist

June 19, 2015

Keeping Children out of the Middle

A core value of Collaborative Team Practice is keeping children at the center and out of the middle. But what does this mean? Why this is distinction important? It is because divorcing parents are writing the life story their children Continue reading…

June 4, 2015

The Wisdom of the Child Specialist

I am working on a case in which the parties have elected to use the services of a neutral child specialist to evaluate the parties’ two children (9 and 12), to communicate her findings, and to help design a parenting Continue reading…

May 14, 2015

Don’t Forget About ‘The Team’

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

I have finally fulfilled my responsibility as a new member of the Collaborative Law Institute to take the two-part training, known as the New Collaborative Experience. The training, which takes place over two Fridays a week apart, is generally offered Continue reading…

April 29, 2015

Dating After Divorce: Preparing the Kids

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

The longer I work as a neutral child specialist, the more important I realize it is to help divorcing parents have meaningful conversations about the possibility that one or both of them will enter into new significant relationships while their Continue reading…

January 27, 2015

Becoming the Best Parent I Can Be

In a recent first meeting with new clients, I was obtaining family history to help ground me in both parents’ perspectives on issues related to their divorce. A comment by the dad struck a chord for me. He said, “I Continue reading…

November 13, 2014

Divorce: What’s Co-Parenting Got To Do With It?

Divorce is a crisis in the life of a family.  It is not actually a legal crisis, though it requires this expertise to ensure that legal resolutions are reached regarding financial matters. It is not a theoretical crisis. It is Continue reading…

September 9, 2014

The Possibility of Paternity

Children born to unmarried parents are vulnerable. While they may have many of the same legal protections afforded to children going through a divorce of their parents, the relationship between their parents can be more tenuous. Of course, the circumstances Continue reading…

August 27, 2014

The Value of the Relationship Plan

One of the most valuable outcomes of Collaborative Team Practice for many families is how respectfully the process helps prepare parents for effective co-parenting.  Lee Eddison, a very experienced neutral coach in Collaborative Team Practice, aptly describes this as a Continue reading…

July 14, 2014

Collaborative Divorce: Is It Right For Me?

When people consider divorce, they typically think of two ways to reach a resolution – litigation or mediation.  While both have benefits, many couples find they would prefer a third option.  That’s where Collaborative Divorce can be the perfect fit. Continue reading…

July 2, 2014

Parties or Parents? Language Matters!

In my role as neutral child specialist I often act as a translator.  I work to ensure that parents understand the words and ideas of their children about how family can work best for them moving forward. I help parents listen Continue reading…