Tag Archives: Mental Health

February 10, 2016

What I’m Not Saying

Listening to the voice of the child is increasingly becoming a mainstream concept in family law.  This is a welcome development, as careful attunement to children’s perspectives and needs can guide resolutions and parenting plans that are truly in the Continue reading…

December 21, 2015

For Better or For Worse: Marriage According to the Simpsons, Part I

Categories: DivorceMental Health

I’ve been thinking about how much challenge it can be to make a marriage work and keep it working. That had me start thinking about one of America’s most dysfunctional couples who happen the be a pretty good model what Continue reading…

October 29, 2015

Forgiveness in Divorce

“Many promising reconciliations have broken down because, while both parties came prepared to forgive, neither party came prepared to be forgiven.”  – Charles Williams, British author and translator I recently came across this quote about forgiveness and reconciliation and it Continue reading…

October 18, 2015

Carry Moonbeams Home in a Jar

Categories: DivorceMental Health

The creativity of the genius has been largely romanticized. The movie, Amadeus, portrayed Mozart to be a sort of idiot savant – divinely inspired to compose music in his head from whole cloth. Those of us who labor to achieve Continue reading…

September 10, 2015

Healthy Divorce

More and more of those who find themselves in the reality of divorce are becoming aware of the possibility that it can at least be healthy. When we consider the word “healthy” we often think of eating healthy. Yet, when Continue reading…

September 4, 2015

5 Things to Consider About Prenuptial Agreements

So, here is another one of those 3, 5, 7, 8, etc. things/reasons to do/not do something. In thinking about this blog I actually found an article called 5 Realities About Prenuptial Agreements – Why Having One May Be a Continue reading…

September 3, 2015

Marriage Hospice

Divorce is unfair in that is often asks people to make some of the most important decisions in their lives at a time when they may be impaired by many emotions, including grief. Many clients experiencing divorce have described the Continue reading…

September 2, 2015

The Importance of Attachment: Part II

In”The Importance of Attachment: Part I“, I outlined the key developmental value of a secure attachment relationship between a child and a parent.   Secure attachment is the foundation of resilience.  Adverse life events, like a divorce, can be mastered by Continue reading…

August 24, 2015

When You Feel Helpless, Help Someone

Divorce brings up many feelings, including feeling helpless. Sometimes you feel like your life is spinning out of your own control and you are left helpless. There is a quote by Aung San Suu Kyi that reads, “When you feel Continue reading…

June 16, 2015

Collaborative vs. Traditional: The Role of the Coach

A couple of weekends ago, I received an email from a client asking me to call her ASAP. When I reached her, she related to me an incident between her and her husband in which a conflict between them escalated Continue reading…