Tag Archives: divorce with dignity

July 17, 2017

Teamwork in the Midst of Substance Abuse

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Divorce • Mental Health

About 3 and a-half years ago, a family in the Collaborative Divorce  process was working with the Neutral Child Specialist .   It was stated by my client that dad’s alcohol use was the primary basis for her seeking the divorce. She Continue reading…

June 12, 2017

How to Avoid the Divortex – Part 2

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Family Law • Finances and Divorce

In Part 1, vortex was defined as: 1) a whirling mass of water or air that sucks everything near it towards its center; 2) a place or situation regarded as drawing into its center all that it surrounds, and hence, Continue reading…

May 8, 2017

Stick and Stones May Break My Bones, But Names Will Never Hurt Me

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law • Mental Health • Parents

Remember hearing that as a child?  I do.  I said it.  I believed it.  And then I didn’t.  Names DO hurt, even if they aren’t “really bad, mean names.”  They can burn a memory into your brain that can haunt Continue reading…

October 4, 2016

Leaving Litigation Behind

Categories: Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law

A collaborative law colleague recently wrote a lovely piece in the Boston Globe describing his reasons for leaving his litigation practice behind and representing clients only in alternative dispute resolution processes. His article resonated greatly with me. I too left Continue reading…

August 29, 2016

Growing from Your Divorce

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Divorce • Legal Separation • Separation

In the early days of separation and divorce you may find the idea of growing from your divorce difficult to believe. You may be in a state of depression or denial wondering how your life will carry on, much less Continue reading…

August 23, 2016

The Greek Chorus During Divorce

Categories: Divorce

When getting divorced, it is important to have a support network.  Having a sounding board and friends to talk through things with can help you evaluate options.  They can remind you that you are not alone.  Acquaintances who have gone Continue reading…

June 30, 2016

What Would a Court Do: Property Division and Cash Flow (Part 2)

Categories: Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law

As a collaborative attorney, I am often asked “what would a court do?”  Although parties in a collaborative divorce are not asking the court to make decisions in their case, what the law is and how a court may view Continue reading…

April 19, 2016

The First Agreement: Words Matter

Categories: Children in Divorce • Parents

The Four Agreements is a best-selling book by Don Miguel Ruiz that articulates principles people can choose to follow to stay out of conflict with others.  These principles are extremely relevant and helpful for parents going through a divorce or Continue reading…

January 5, 2016

New Years Resolutions

Categories: Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law • Finances and Divorce • Mental Health • Money and Finances

As 2016 begins, many of us come up with resolutions for the coming year. Some people hope to exercise more, spend more time as a family or plan a vacation. For families who have divorced, the new year often symbolizes Continue reading…

October 5, 2015

Divorce and the Orange

Categories: Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law

What can an orange possibly help us with in our collaborative divorce or any divorce process for that matter? You may have heard about interest based negotiations vs. position based negotiations. When I am working as a financial neutral or Continue reading…