Tag Archives: conflict resolution

March 23, 2016

Reaching Agreement

In an election year, we are exposed to an abundance of rhetoric.  As candidates debate and advertise to convince people to vote for them, I listen for words reflecting respect, dignity, the ability to listen deeply and the capacity to Continue reading…

January 13, 2016

The First Steps in My Collaborative Case

Yesterday, I attended the first joint meeting in my first Collaborative case.  We reviewed and signed the Participation Agreement and Joint Petition, and the four of us progressed efficiently through the agenda that I had proposed. My beginner’s anxiety about Continue reading…

January 8, 2016

Delay, Delay, Delay!

During the first joint meeting of my Collaborative case, the parties agreed that an interest they shared was the efficiency of the process.  My client in particular was concerned about the case dragging on, as she was still living with Continue reading…

October 28, 2015

Are You a Good Fit for Collaborative Divorce?

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

This is an important question. Perhaps you have heard about the new paradigm of collaborative family. How might you know if collaborative law would be a good alternative for you, and how do you know if you would be a Continue reading…

October 14, 2015

The Second Agreement

Categories: DivorceMental HealthParents

Some time ago I wrote about The Four Agreements from a book by the same name by Don Miguel Ruiz. Ruiz believes we can stay out of conflict if each person makes the following agreements with him or herself: 1.  Continue reading…

October 5, 2015

Divorce and the Orange

What can an orange possibly help us with in our collaborative divorce or any divorce process for that matter? You may have heard about interest based negotiations vs. position based negotiations. When I am working as a financial neutral or Continue reading…

October 5, 2015

The Third Agreement

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

In his book about how to avoid human conflict, Don Miguel Ruiz suggests these four agreements that a person makes with himself or herself: 1.  I will be impeccable with my word. 2.  I will not personalize the anything the Continue reading…

September 27, 2015

The Power of Conversation

“The greatest single antidote to violence is conversation” – Jonathan Sacks I heard the quote above a while ago, and it has stuck with me. As I’ve been mulling it over, I have seen parallels to what I do as Continue reading…

September 22, 2015

Children in High Conflict Families

We live in a bell curve world. By that I simply mean that all manner of traits and characteristics can be viewed as occurring in a distribution throughout society that clumps more numbers in the middle, and fewer numbers on Continue reading…

September 20, 2015

The Risk of Making Assumptions

Categories: DivorceParents

0In his book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz articulates four principles which, when regularly practiced, will enable people to avoid conflict and live a peaceful life. The agreements one makes with oneself are: 1.  I will be impeccable with Continue reading…