Tag Archives: communication

April 19, 2016

The First Agreement: Words Matter

The Four Agreements is a best-selling book by Don Miguel Ruiz that articulates principles people can choose to follow to stay out of conflict with others.  These principles are extremely relevant and helpful for parents going through a divorce or Continue reading…

March 30, 2016

The “X” Files

Categories: Divorce

When I heard “The X Files” was coming back for six episodes, I was thrilled!  What other show gives you supernatural, psychological, political, legal, medical, and alien content wrapped into one?  The show ended when I was a new lawyer; Continue reading…

March 29, 2016

No Fooling! April is Financial Literacy Month

Did you know that there is a National Financial Literacy Month?? Well, there is! The powers that be have selected April to be the Financial Literacy Month. Why April rather than July probably goes to the fact that so many Continue reading…

March 24, 2016

Why Principled Negotiations are Preferred

I recently saw an article about Choosing Your Battles and Fight for What Actually Matters. Wow, I thought, what a stagnant place to live! Fighting comes out of two related concepts: participating in games and competitions, or engaging in war. Continue reading…

March 23, 2016

Reaching Agreement

In an election year, we are exposed to an abundance of rhetoric.  As candidates debate and advertise to convince people to vote for them, I listen for words reflecting respect, dignity, the ability to listen deeply and the capacity to Continue reading…

March 10, 2016

Difficult Divorces: How to Move Forward

Collaborative divorce is an out-of-court, non-adversarial process for dissolving a marriage. It is common for one spouse being ready to move forward with divorce and the other spouse struggling to move forward in the process. Parties can be at very different Continue reading…

March 9, 2016

Transitions: 5 Tips

In my work with families making the shift from one to two households for their children, I often remind parents that transitions between homes are typically bothersome for kids.  I use the personal example of going on vacation to explain Continue reading…

March 3, 2016

Sorry!

Categories: Divorce

Several experiences this past weekend got me thinking about the meaning of a true apology.  On Sunday, I read Gail Rosenblum’s column in the Star Tribune about whether women, in particular, are socially conditioned to say “I’m sorry” too often.  Continue reading…

February 10, 2016

What I’m Not Saying

Listening to the voice of the child is increasingly becoming a mainstream concept in family law.  This is a welcome development, as careful attunement to children’s perspectives and needs can guide resolutions and parenting plans that are truly in the Continue reading…

January 26, 2016

Childfocused Resolutions

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

Here are five suggestions for how divorcing parents can provide support to their children in the new year: 1.  Keep expectations realistic.  Children go through a grieving process just as their parents do when the marriage ends.  Their energy and Continue reading…