Tag Archives: Collaborative Practice

September 15, 2015

Collaborative Divorce and College Admissions Compared

Every year, I am asked by my undergraduate alma mater to participate in the prospective student interview process. It is a good cause, to be sure; the university this year has over two hundred applicants from the greater Twin Cities Continue reading…

September 6, 2015

Giving Children Hope

Today I met with two very attuned and caring parents who have, after many efforts at repair,  made the decision to end their marriage. Topmost on their list of concerns was the impact their divorce might have on their children, Continue reading…

September 2, 2015

The Importance of Attachment: Part II

In”The Importance of Attachment: Part I“, I outlined the key developmental value of a secure attachment relationship between a child and a parent.   Secure attachment is the foundation of resilience.  Adverse life events, like a divorce, can be mastered by Continue reading…

August 26, 2015

The Importance of Attachment: Part I

Attachment is the term used to describe the emotional relationship between two people.  The earliest and most significant attachment develops between an infant and his or her primary caregivers.  This attachment is based on how consistently, accurately and soothingly the Continue reading…

August 14, 2015

Why Settle for the Minimum in Divorce When You Can Get More?

In divorce many people hire attorneys with the hope of receiving what the law entitles them to receive.  They focus on their rights and ask their lawyer to help them get what “the law” provides, perhaps believe that this is Continue reading…

July 17, 2015

Low Cost, High Quality Divorce the Collaborative Way

As a neutral child specialist, I believe Collaborative Practice should be available to all families who want a child-focused, respectful, out-of-court divorce process.  However, a critique often made of Collaborative Practice is how unaffordable it must be for families with Continue reading…

July 6, 2015

The Collaborative “Team”

The first thing that sets a Collaborative case apart is the Participation Agreement, a mindful choice by the couple to come to the table, with their support system, gather information, make informed choices, and negotiate a resolution. For a discussion Continue reading…

June 16, 2015

Collaborative vs. Traditional: The Role of the Coach

A couple of weekends ago, I received an email from a client asking me to call her ASAP. When I reached her, she related to me an incident between her and her husband in which a conflict between them escalated Continue reading…

June 4, 2015

The Wisdom of the Child Specialist

I am working on a case in which the parties have elected to use the services of a neutral child specialist to evaluate the parties’ two children (9 and 12), to communicate her findings, and to help design a parenting Continue reading…

May 15, 2015

Sufficient Conditions

Getting unmarried collaboratively is about having difficult conversations with one’s soon to be un-spouse in order to reach an agreement in which there is mutual gain – think of it as finding a way to divide a dozen oranges so Continue reading…