Tag Archives: Collaborative Practice

June 15, 2018

Uncontested Divorce: Should We do it Ourselves?

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Divorce • Parents

Have you ever wondered about how to do something that felt daunting but maybe not super complicated (baking a perfect soufflé, building a patio, learning to golf) and decided to follow the advice to “Just look on YouTube!”  So you Continue reading…

August 1, 2016

Divorce Blog about Divorce Blogs

Categories: Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law • Finances and Divorce • Money and Divorce • Money and Finances

While researching for this post, I came across a number of divorce-related blogs.  The blog medium provides an efficient and concise opportunity to share information and educate the public.  This blog focuses on the collaborative process — where clients commit Continue reading…

March 23, 2016

Reaching Agreement

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Parents

In an election year, we are exposed to an abundance of rhetoric.  As candidates debate and advertise to convince people to vote for them, I listen for words reflecting respect, dignity, the ability to listen deeply and the capacity to Continue reading…

February 16, 2016

Initial Consultation

Categories: Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law

In the Twin Cities, many family law attorneys offer a free consultation to learn about your options.  This is a time to meet your potential new attorney and ask your questions.  The consultation can serve three main purposes. First, you Continue reading…

November 5, 2015

New Significant Others After a Divorce

Categories: Children in Divorce • Parents

An amicable separation and divorce can sometimes become strained when new relationships start.  New significant others often cause new emotional reactions that can subsequently impact parenting. In order to preemptively address the problems that can arise when new relationships start, in Continue reading…

September 20, 2015

The Risk of Making Assumptions

Categories: Divorce • Parents

0In his book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz articulates four principles which, when regularly practiced, will enable people to avoid conflict and live a peaceful life. The agreements one makes with oneself are: 1.  I will be impeccable with Continue reading…

September 6, 2015

Giving Children Hope

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Parents

Today I met with two very attuned and caring parents who have, after many efforts at repair,  made the decision to end their marriage. Topmost on their list of concerns was the impact their divorce might have on their children, Continue reading…

September 2, 2015

The Importance of Attachment: Part II

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Divorce

In”The Importance of Attachment: Part I“, I outlined the key developmental value of a secure attachment relationship between a child and a parent.   Secure attachment is the foundation of resilience.  Adverse life events, like a divorce, can be mastered by Continue reading…

August 26, 2015

The Importance of Attachment: Part I

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Divorce

Attachment is the term used to describe the emotional relationship between two people.  The earliest and most significant attachment develops between an infant and his or her primary caregivers.  This attachment is based on how consistently, accurately and soothingly the Continue reading…

August 14, 2015

Why Settle for the Minimum in Divorce When You Can Get More?

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law

In divorce many people hire attorneys with the hope of receiving what the law entitles them to receive.  They focus on their rights and ask their lawyer to help them get what “the law” provides, perhaps believe that this is Continue reading…