Tag Archives: children’s emotional adjustment to divorce

February 10, 2016

What I’m Not Saying

Listening to the voice of the child is increasingly becoming a mainstream concept in family law.  This is a welcome development, as careful attunement to children’s perspectives and needs can guide resolutions and parenting plans that are truly in the Continue reading…

January 26, 2016

Childfocused Resolutions

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

Here are five suggestions for how divorcing parents can provide support to their children in the new year: 1.  Keep expectations realistic.  Children go through a grieving process just as their parents do when the marriage ends.  Their energy and Continue reading…

January 25, 2016

Patience & Divorce

Having friends scattered throughout the country has shown me just how drastic divorce proceedings and turnarounds can be. My friend in Baltimore, Maryland, who was married for 5 years with no kids, had no battles over property division, and her Continue reading…

November 12, 2015

How Do You Step Back and Really Think?

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

Some say that life is a whole lot more stress-free now than ever before. I suppose it might seem that way if you consider that most of us living in this modern era in the United States of America have Continue reading…

November 9, 2015

Creating Emotional Balance this Holiday Season

Married, separated, or divorced alike, it’s hard not to feel anxious about the upcoming holiday season. Whether you love it or are dreading it, the 2015 holiday season is just around the corner. Maybe you are feeling that there is Continue reading…

November 5, 2015

New Significant Others After a Divorce

An amicable separation and divorce can sometimes become strained when new relationships start.  New significant others often cause new emotional reactions that can subsequently impact parenting. In order to preemptively address the problems that can arise when new relationships start, in Continue reading…

October 29, 2015

Forgiveness in Divorce

“Many promising reconciliations have broken down because, while both parties came prepared to forgive, neither party came prepared to be forgiven.”  – Charles Williams, British author and translator I recently came across this quote about forgiveness and reconciliation and it Continue reading…

October 21, 2015

Helping Children Cope with the Stress of Divorce

Your divorce probably has you feeling like everything is beyond your control. Now imagine the lack of control your children are feeling. Yesterday they had a family with two parents living under the same roof, and today their family life Continue reading…

October 11, 2015

Minnesota State Fair and Divorce

We are currently enjoying the annual Minnesota Get-Together.  The State Fair is an annual ritualistic event that many Minnesotans appreciate.  When families are divorcing, it is often important to continue to maintain these rituals to keep consistency for children. When Continue reading…

October 5, 2015

The Third Agreement

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

In his book about how to avoid human conflict, Don Miguel Ruiz suggests these four agreements that a person makes with himself or herself: 1.  I will be impeccable with my word. 2.  I will not personalize the anything the Continue reading…