During those halcyon days of college, I can into the possession of an aging Plymouth Duster – the 1970’s answer to the Honda Accord; a 2 door transportation module – with a surprise. In the terms of hot rod culture, the car was a sleeper. At some point in the car’s life a former owner had removed the original 6-cylinder engine and shoehorned an excessively large V-8 under the hood. The car was power incarnate (even if its thirst for gasoline meant that a college student could seldom afford to the car go vroom much less the vroom-vroom-vroom the car was capable of).
That car left my life long ago, but the concept of a sleeper, of finding hidden power in the otherwise ordinary, has stuck with me. Perhaps this is part of what attracts me to Collaborative Practice; the idea that just below the trappings of an ordinary legal procedure lies an extraordinary amount of power – power to be compassionate, power to transform, power to build positive futures, power to educate, power to create – power to be used or not used as the couple wishes.
It is a power I don’t find in other divorce processes,. While a mediated divorce gives the couple control, it lacks the varied creative inputs of the Collaborative team. The litigated divorce may bring talented professionals to bear upon the couple’s issues, but a couple’s choice always seems to be diminished.Tagged with: Collaborative Divorce • collaborative divorce process • Collaborative Practice • collaborative team process • divorce • divorce choices • divorce options