Monthly Archives: June 2015

June 19, 2015

Keeping Children out of the Middle

A core value of Collaborative Team Practice is keeping children at the center and out of the middle. But what does this mean? Why this is distinction important? It is because divorcing parents are writing the life story their children Continue reading…

June 16, 2015

Collaborative vs. Traditional: The Role of the Coach

A couple of weekends ago, I received an email from a client asking me to call her ASAP. When I reached her, she related to me an incident between her and her husband in which a conflict between them escalated Continue reading…

June 12, 2015

Ex-Spouses Who Care

In the past few months, I have seen a number of people in my social network share this letter. It is a wonderfully written letter from an ex-Wife to her husband’s new girlfriend. Instead of the expected angry, hurtful, stay-away-from-my-children Continue reading…

June 10, 2015

Through the Eyes of a Child

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

Even under the best of circumstances, divorce can be a traumatic experience for a child. It was a huge insight for me when I first realized that young children’s stories about giants are really about their experiences with huge adults, Continue reading…

June 5, 2015

What’s Fair?

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

When you talk to a lawyer, fair is based on the law, so when lawyers try to settle a matter they ask themselves “what’s the court likely to do” and then proceed to come to some agreement based on what Continue reading…

June 4, 2015

The Wisdom of the Child Specialist

I am working on a case in which the parties have elected to use the services of a neutral child specialist to evaluate the parties’ two children (9 and 12), to communicate her findings, and to help design a parenting Continue reading…

June 2, 2015

Retitling Assets Following Divorce

A large component of a divorce is dividing the assets that you and your spouse accumulated during your marriage. Now that the divorce decree is completed, it is essential to start retitling assets as soon as possible. Retitling of assets Continue reading…

June 1, 2015

The Elephant in the Room

If a ring is a sign of marriage, should there be a sign for divorce? How do you handle simple social situations and interactions regarding your divorce? Do you come right out and tell people you are divorced, wait until Continue reading…