Monthly Archives: October 2014

October 13, 2014

Beginning the New School Year

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

The beginning of a new school year is all about the juxtaposition of continuity and change.  We all remember the mix of excitement, anxiety, hope and worry that accompany this time of transition for children.  Parents want their kids to Continue reading…

October 10, 2014

Attorney-Centered vs. Party-Centered

It makes me happy when I am not needed. I recently had an experience with another lawyer that left me with a sour taste in my mouth about the involvement of attorneys in the divorce process. My client (Husband) and Continue reading…

October 9, 2014

Budget Your Way to a New Life – Part Two: Future Focus

Categories: DivorceMoney and Finances

If you have created an estimated monthly budget for your new household after a divorce, know that it will likely change down the road. You may discover after a few months that your spending estimates were unrealistic in some areas Continue reading…

October 8, 2014

Part II – Advocacy in the “Interest-Based” Collaborative Model

In Part I we learned that “rights-based” advocacy in the Court Model is hard on the problem but also hard on the people. Advocacy in the “interest-based” Collaborative Model is also hard on the problem, but SOFT on the people. Continue reading…

October 7, 2014

Delaying Marriage is Risky Business

Why are less and less couples getting married? Is it because their parent’s marriages failed? Is it because they don’t see any benefit to marriage? Is it because every wedding appears to be a $20,000 extravagant country club affair? Maybe, Continue reading…

October 6, 2014

Where Will the Kids Go to School?

It is not uncommon for parents to disagree on school choice. Sometimes parents have differing opinions on the curriculum of a school or certain teachers or even location or class schedule. When children are at natural school moves (such as entering Continue reading…

October 2, 2014

But Where Will I Go Trick or Treating?

The psychologist Anthony Wolf wrote a book about divorce and kids entitled Why Do You Have to Get a Divorce?  And Can I Still Get a Hamster?   I love the title of this book, because it identifies both the big Continue reading…

October 1, 2014

Helping Your Grandchildren through Divorce

When you find out your son or daughter is getting a divorce, your first thought will often be about their children; your grandchildren.  How will the children be affected by all of this?  And how can you help; or avoid Continue reading…