Monthly Archives: May 2014

May 27, 2014

Try to “Win” in Divorce Court: Unless You Want to Get a Better Result

With so much at stake in a divorce, it is tempting to think about how to “win”.  Yet, the grim irony of divorce is that “winning” often leads to poor results.   I know that seems like a contradiction, but most Continue reading…

May 22, 2014

4 Ways to Reduce Stress in Divorce

Categories: DivorceParents

In the list of life’s most stressful events, divorce is near the top of the list. Divorce can cause health concerns, sleeplessness, job performance problems, distraction, and short tempers. It can damage relationships with others and, obviously, can be very hard Continue reading…

May 21, 2014

The Eulogy

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

After the service was over, my friend, Larry, came up to me and said, “When I die, I want you to do my eulogy!” “Then he’s going to have to spend a lot more time with you,” my wife chimed Continue reading…

May 20, 2014

Plan for Tax Changes During and After Your Divorce

During and after a divorce, tax matters take on new importance since your financial circumstances have probably changed, as has your filing status. If you were in charge of tax returns during your marriage — and especially if you were Continue reading…

May 19, 2014

How to Find a Family Law Attorney

Many years ago when I had recently moved and was looking for a new dentist, I simply looked through the phone book and found a dentist that was located nearby and set up an appointment. Later, when I arrived at Continue reading…

May 15, 2014

Summer Schedule Stress-Reliever: Effective Co-Parenting

For Minnesota families, summer feels different than other times of the year in more ways than just the warmer weather.   Because most kids don’t attend school year round, the summer months can present unique scheduling challenges.  This is  especially Continue reading…

May 14, 2014

The Great Mandala

Sometimes Life’s lessons are subtle and elusive.  Other times, they’re less so. In mid-March, my granddaughter arrived “in the usual way”, big dark eyes and a head full of dark hair that had all the nurses exclaiming.  My stepson was Continue reading…

May 13, 2014

Collaborative Divorce: A Minnesota Model Changes the World

I just read a Forbes magazine article about the four methods of divorce: Do it yourself Divorce; Mediation; Collaborative Divorce and Litigated Divorce and it reminded of how lucky we are to live in Minnesota. Collaborative Divorce started in Minnesota Continue reading…

May 9, 2014

3 Ways to Deal With Stress During a Divorce

Categories: DivorceMental HealthSeparation

Divorce is one of life’s most stressful events. In fact, research shows that ending a marriage is second only to the death of a spouse as a predictor of illness. So in order to stay healthy, it makes sense to Continue reading…

May 7, 2014

Life After a Collaborative Divorce: A Client’s Experience

Recently I received a LinkedIn endorsement from Christa, a client I represented in 2008 in her collaborative divorce.  In thanking her for her endorsement, I took the opportunity to ask her how she was doing.   With her permission, her response Continue reading…