Monthly Archives: May 2014

May 28, 2014

Hey There, You With the Stars in Your Eyes…

In my previous post I raised the counter intuitive prospect of considering things from the perspective of one getting ready to seek a divorce, but doing this while putting together a pre-marital agreement prior to your wedding. The book, Considering Continue reading…

May 27, 2014

Try to “Win” in Divorce Court: Unless You Want to Get a Better Result

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law • Mental Health

With so much at stake in a divorce, it is tempting to think about how to “win”. Yet, the grim irony of divorce is that “winning” often leads to poor results. I know that seems like a contradiction, but most Continue reading…

May 22, 2014

4 Ways to Reduce Stress in Divorce

Categories: Divorce • Parents

In the list of life’s most stressful events, divorce is near the top of the list. Divorce can cause health concerns, sleeplessness, job performance problems, distraction, and short tempers. It can damage relationships with others and, obviously, can be very hard Continue reading…

May 21, 2014

The Eulogy

Categories: Children in Divorce • Divorce • Parents

After the service was over, my friend, Larry, came up to me and said, “When I die, I want you to do my eulogy!” “Then he’s going to have to spend a lot more time with you,” my wife chimed Continue reading…

May 20, 2014

Plan for Tax Changes During and After Your Divorce

Categories: Divorce • Money and Finances • Taxes and Divorce

During and after a divorce, tax matters take on new importance since your financial circumstances have probably changed, as has your filing status. If you were in charge of tax returns during your marriage — and especially if you were Continue reading…

May 19, 2014

How to Find a Family Law Attorney

Categories: Collaborative Law • Divorce • Family Law • Mediation

Many years ago when I had recently moved and was looking for a new dentist, I simply looked through the phone book and found a dentist that was located nearby and set up an appointment. Later, when I arrived at Continue reading…

May 15, 2014

Summer Schedule Stress-Reliever: Effective Co-Parenting

Categories: Children in Divorce • Collaborative Law • Divorce • Money and Finances • Parents

For Minnesota families, summer feels different than other times of the year in more ways than just the warmer weather. Because most kids don’t attend school year round, the summer months can present unique scheduling challenges. This is especially Continue reading…

May 14, 2014

The Great Mandala

Categories: Children in Divorce • Parents

Sometimes Life’s lessons are subtle and elusive. Other times, they’re less so. In mid-March, my granddaughter arrived “in the usual way”, big dark eyes and a head full of dark hair that had all the nurses exclaiming. My stepson was Continue reading…

May 13, 2014

Collaborative Divorce: A Minnesota Model Changes the World

Categories: Collaborative Law • Divorce • Money and Finances • Taxes and Divorce

I just read a Forbes magazine article about the four methods of divorce: Do it yourself Divorce; Mediation; Collaborative Divorce and Litigated Divorce and it reminded of how lucky we are to live in Minnesota. Collaborative Divorce started in Minnesota Continue reading…

May 12, 2014

Summer Camps, Sports and Child Care – Tips to Keep You Sane As You Plan

Categories: Children in Divorce • Divorce • Money and Finances • Parents

Planning your summer’s activities, in theory, sounds like fun – especially after a long winter. However, most parents will tell you it is a dreaded task having to account for the many weeks their children are out of school. As Continue reading…