Monthly Archives: September 2013

September 19, 2013

To Divorce or Not to Divorce? What to do with this Question.

As a Collaborative Divorce Attorney, I have seen many clients who are ambivalent about getting a divorce. How do I know they are ambivalent? Because, in addition to the story they tell me, I ask potential clients to take the following Continue reading…

September 18, 2013

Divorce: The Rule of Relationship is more Powerful than the Rule of Law

The “Rule of Relationship” is one of the most powerful forces in our lives. Often we are not even aware of its existence. In a divorce, it can be more powerful than the rule of law. Here is how it Continue reading…

September 17, 2013

Jazz, Medicine and Collaborative Practice

Categories: Collaborative Law

Stu Webb, who thought about collaborative divorce first in the early 1990’s, and is considered the founder of collaborative law, loves jazz. So do I. I listened to my 9th year of fabulous jazz music at the Detroit International Jazz Continue reading…

September 16, 2013

Communicating in Divorce: From B.F.F. to B.I.F.F.

Categories: DivorceMental Health

When you are in love, communicating seems easy. No rules are needed because you choose your words as a way to connect with this person. What happens when you fall out of love? It’s not uncommon for soon-to-be or ex-spouses Continue reading…

September 13, 2013

Getting Unmarried Part III: I’m off to talk with my spouse about divorce.

Categories: Divorce

My previous posts have covered: Making the decision to get divorced and searching out the various processes on how to get divorced, including collaborative divorce.  From my way of thinking, which is not necessarily how anyone else might think, the Continue reading…

September 12, 2013

Kids and Divorce – 3 Tips on How To Stay Organized In Two Homes

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

As the parent of an elementary and junior high student, I assumed that my most challenging years of parenting would occur before my children entered school. Although in many ways parenting has become easier (no diapers or safety locks), in Continue reading…

September 11, 2013

When Being Right Is Wrong: Lesson from a Dog

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

It turns out that dogs are great teachers about relationships. My dog recently taught me that I cannot get him (or anyone else) to do something simply by being right. Being right will not get you what you want in Continue reading…

September 10, 2013

The Best Solutions Can Sometimes be Found in the Bathroom Mirror

Categories: Divorce

There is a very funny video making the rounds that shows a woman talking to her husband about this mysterious pain in the middle of her forehead.  Early in the video we are shown that the pain is being caused by Continue reading…

September 9, 2013

Answers to 3 Major Divorce Questions

A recent article in the New York Times suggests that big-money divorces provide lessons for less-wealthy couples. Regardless of a couple’s income or net worth, several questions are common to most marriage dissolutions, including: How can we create a parenting Continue reading…

September 6, 2013

Top 3 Tips for Divorced Moms

Besides being a family law attorney, I am a divorced mother of a teenager. My daughter was 9 when her dad and I separated. Parenting is not for the faint of heart, even with a great kid. I cherish the Continue reading…