Tag Archives: reach across the table

June 12, 2017

How to Avoid the Divortex – Part 2

In Part 1, vortex was defined as: 1) a whirling mass of water or air that sucks everything near it towards its center; 2) a place or situation regarded as drawing into its center all that it surrounds, and hence, Continue reading…

July 13, 2015

Speaking of Fairness

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

The most important fact about a traditional divorce is that the decisions rendered by the court are not based on what you, your spouse, your lawyers or a judge thinks is fair and frankly, standing before a judge arguing about Continue reading…

October 10, 2014

Attorney-Centered vs. Party-Centered

It makes me happy when I am not needed. I recently had an experience with another lawyer that left me with a sour taste in my mouth about the involvement of attorneys in the divorce process. My client (Husband) and Continue reading…

December 31, 2013

Men in Divorce: Help Your Wife Get a Great Divorce Agreement

I have learned a few things over the years being a divorce and family law attorney and mediator. One thing I have observed is that men are often result-oriented in a divorce (and just generally in life, right?!). They frequently Continue reading…

August 22, 2013

How a Divorce Ends

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

Many people contemplate and give great thought to starting a divorce. A person considering divorce wonders about cost and timing and how to tell their spouse they want to initiate the process. Many attorneys talk about filing papers with the Continue reading…

May 10, 2013

Productive Conflict Resolution in Divorce

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

How do you respond to a verbal “attack” from your spouse?  In all likelihood you act defensively: you make excuses for yourself and in the same sentence belittle the other person’s importance.  Your spouse then typically counter-attacks.  The vicious cycle Continue reading…

April 23, 2013

The Power of Communication

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

In my collaborative legal practice, I consistently witness the power of communication in conflict resolution. A recent story illustrates this power. My father recently settled into his lawn chair in the backyard of his beautiful Southern California home when he Continue reading…