Tag Archives: productive conflict resolution

May 4, 2016

The Trauma of Living

Categories: Divorce

On my way to the world last week I stumbled upon an article in The Guardian magazine that caught my attention. Richard Bentall wrote the article, entitled Mental Illness is a Result of Misery, yet still we stigmatise it. The Continue reading…

April 26, 2016

When In Doubt, Relax

Categories: Divorce

Just read a fascinating article by Jesse Singal titled, “The Bad Things That Happen When People Can’t Deal With Ambigous Situations”. For some time now I’ve been hearing that we humans are meaning making machines – driven by a compulsion Continue reading…

April 19, 2016

The First Agreement: Words Matter

The Four Agreements is a best-selling book by Don Miguel Ruiz that articulates principles people can choose to follow to stay out of conflict with others.  These principles are extremely relevant and helpful for parents going through a divorce or Continue reading…

April 6, 2016

The Challenge of Thinking on Our Feet

An article I came across spoke of an eighteenth century French philosopher and writer, Dennis Diderot, who was engaged in a debate at a dinner party over a topic he knew well. When challenged on some point he found himself Continue reading…

March 23, 2016

Reaching Agreement

In an election year, we are exposed to an abundance of rhetoric.  As candidates debate and advertise to convince people to vote for them, I listen for words reflecting respect, dignity, the ability to listen deeply and the capacity to Continue reading…

March 10, 2016

Difficult Divorces: How to Move Forward

Collaborative divorce is an out-of-court, non-adversarial process for dissolving a marriage. It is common for one spouse being ready to move forward with divorce and the other spouse struggling to move forward in the process. Parties can be at very different Continue reading…

March 1, 2016

Impact of Divorce

The Week recently printed an article on negative impacts of divorce on children.  You can read the article here.  It is a summary of research done around the world demonstrating how divorce negatively impacts children. Unlike the commonly known impacts Continue reading…

January 13, 2016

The First Steps in My Collaborative Case

Yesterday, I attended the first joint meeting in my first Collaborative case.  We reviewed and signed the Participation Agreement and Joint Petition, and the four of us progressed efficiently through the agenda that I had proposed. My beginner’s anxiety about Continue reading…

January 8, 2016

Delay, Delay, Delay!

During the first joint meeting of my Collaborative case, the parties agreed that an interest they shared was the efficiency of the process.  My client in particular was concerned about the case dragging on, as she was still living with Continue reading…

January 4, 2016

For Better or For Worse: Marriage According to the Simpsons Part II

In my earlier post I looked at some considerations that have created an anomaly – a dysfunctional couple who score high in marriage satisfaction. I looked at a conventional psychological model, called the Investment Model. (1) This model applies three Continue reading…