Tag Archives: parenting plan

August 31, 2016

Spirited Children

My kids are spirited.  Not possessed, although somedays it seems like they are.  I thought the term “spirited child” referred to a child with ADD or ADHD.  Not true.  It’s not a diagnosis – it’s simply temperament.  Thank goodness for Continue reading…

November 5, 2015

New Significant Others After a Divorce

An amicable separation and divorce can sometimes become strained when new relationships start.  New significant others often cause new emotional reactions that can subsequently impact parenting. In order to preemptively address the problems that can arise when new relationships start, in Continue reading…

September 14, 2015

Co-Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex

Categories: Divorce

Co-parenting can be challenging even in the most amicable divorces, but there are some personalities disorders that make co-parenting downright difficult. Among these include, but are not limited to: bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder. We are Continue reading…

September 11, 2015

The Collaborative “Team”: The Role of The Divorcing Couple (and Their Family)

The most important members of the collaborative team are the divorcing couple themselves. By choosing a collaborative process, they are agreeing to show up at the table, even when the conversations and decisions are difficult, even when emotions run high. Continue reading…

August 16, 2015

The Fallacy of Fifty-Fifty Parenting

One of the most common requests we hear from divorcing clients with children, is that they want fifty-fifty parenting. What this does is collapse quantity with quality. The two are not synonymous. When it is being said by a father, Continue reading…

June 4, 2015

The Wisdom of the Child Specialist

I am working on a case in which the parties have elected to use the services of a neutral child specialist to evaluate the parties’ two children (9 and 12), to communicate her findings, and to help design a parenting Continue reading…

April 29, 2015

Dating After Divorce: Preparing the Kids

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

The longer I work as a neutral child specialist, the more important I realize it is to help divorcing parents have meaningful conversations about the possibility that one or both of them will enter into new significant relationships while their Continue reading…

January 27, 2015

Becoming the Best Parent I Can Be

In a recent first meeting with new clients, I was obtaining family history to help ground me in both parents’ perspectives on issues related to their divorce. A comment by the dad struck a chord for me. He said, “I Continue reading…

October 17, 2014

Vacation Time After Divorce

Divorcing parents often wonder how vacations are treated in a parenting plan. There are often three types of vacation options addressed in divorce. Vacation during parenting time. Often parents are each allowed to take unlimited vacations during their scheduled parenting time. There Continue reading…

October 6, 2014

Where Will the Kids Go to School?

It is not uncommon for parents to disagree on school choice. Sometimes parents have differing opinions on the curriculum of a school or certain teachers or even location or class schedule. When children are at natural school moves (such as entering Continue reading…