Tag Archives: neutral child specialist

July 17, 2017

Teamwork in the Midst of Substance Abuse

About 3 and a-half years ago, a family in the Collaborative Divorce  process was working with the Neutral Child Specialist .   It was stated by my client that dad’s alcohol use was the primary basis for her seeking the divorce. She Continue reading…

August 31, 2016

Spirited Children

My kids are spirited.  Not possessed, although somedays it seems like they are.  I thought the term “spirited child” referred to a child with ADD or ADHD.  Not true.  It’s not a diagnosis – it’s simply temperament.  Thank goodness for Continue reading…

August 17, 2016

Please Don’t Argue in Front of ANYONE’S Kids at Swimming Lessons

My husband and I were taking our kids to swimming lessons when we saw a man and woman standing outside the facility arguing.  The anger and negative energy were palpable.  While still in the parking lot, we met up with Continue reading…

February 10, 2016

What I’m Not Saying

Listening to the voice of the child is increasingly becoming a mainstream concept in family law.  This is a welcome development, as careful attunement to children’s perspectives and needs can guide resolutions and parenting plans that are truly in the Continue reading…

September 11, 2015

The Collaborative “Team”: The Role of The Divorcing Couple (and Their Family)

The most important members of the collaborative team are the divorcing couple themselves. By choosing a collaborative process, they are agreeing to show up at the table, even when the conversations and decisions are difficult, even when emotions run high. Continue reading…

September 9, 2015

After the Divorce

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

On lists of life stressors, divorce is usually ranked among the top two or three most emotionally challenging events. The process itself is experienced as highly stressful by many people, and from what we know about recovery from profound loss, Continue reading…

September 2, 2015

The Importance of Attachment: Part II

In”The Importance of Attachment: Part I“, I outlined the key developmental value of a secure attachment relationship between a child and a parent.   Secure attachment is the foundation of resilience.  Adverse life events, like a divorce, can be mastered by Continue reading…

August 13, 2015

Investing in your Child’s Future: Divorce Process Matters

Having recently become a grandparent for the first time, I am pondering the future with renewed urgency that my granddaughter’s legacy be one of hope and abundance. As she grows, there is no way to prevent the pain of grief Continue reading…

July 17, 2015

Low Cost, High Quality Divorce the Collaborative Way

As a neutral child specialist, I believe Collaborative Practice should be available to all families who want a child-focused, respectful, out-of-court divorce process.  However, a critique often made of Collaborative Practice is how unaffordable it must be for families with Continue reading…

July 6, 2015

The Collaborative “Team”

The first thing that sets a Collaborative case apart is the Participation Agreement, a mindful choice by the couple to come to the table, with their support system, gather information, make informed choices, and negotiate a resolution. For a discussion Continue reading…