Tag Archives: negotiation

June 12, 2017

How to Avoid the Divortex – Part 2

In Part 1, vortex was defined as: 1) a whirling mass of water or air that sucks everything near it towards its center; 2) a place or situation regarded as drawing into its center all that it surrounds, and hence, Continue reading…

January 13, 2016

The First Steps in My Collaborative Case

Yesterday, I attended the first joint meeting in my first Collaborative case.  We reviewed and signed the Participation Agreement and Joint Petition, and the four of us progressed efficiently through the agenda that I had proposed. My beginner’s anxiety about Continue reading…

September 16, 2015

The Collaborative “Team”: The Role of the Court

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

Although the Court is often silent in a Collaborative Case until the final agreement is filed with the court, we can’t ignore that the way our legislature has crafted it, a divorce must go through the court system and be Continue reading…

July 6, 2015

The Collaborative “Team”

The first thing that sets a Collaborative case apart is the Participation Agreement, a mindful choice by the couple to come to the table, with their support system, gather information, make informed choices, and negotiate a resolution. For a discussion Continue reading…

April 17, 2015

Divorce: The Drafting Process

I am often asked what a “drafting” process for divorce entails. While a full process often has 3-5 professionals, a process for clients who have worked out most of the resolutions on their own, can be much more streamlined. Using Continue reading…

April 14, 2015

Two Things You Want in Your Divorce

Almost all divorces end up in a negotiated settlement. (In most states, less than 5% of all divorces actually go to trial.) Therefore, the most important thing for couples to consider, before they start down the path toward divorce, is Continue reading…

March 11, 2015

How to Prepare for Negotiations – Part II

You have made the wise choice to select a process that focuses on supporting you and your partner in reaching a principled agreement resolving your issues. You are not home free, however, because you still need to participate in the Continue reading…

January 19, 2015

How to Get What is Fair in Your Divorce

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

Can you get what is fair in your divorce? Many people start by telling their attorneys that they want what is “fair” in the divorce only to be told that this is not realistic. “Fair is what happens in St. Continue reading…

June 26, 2014

Breaking Bread

A common feature of most Collaborative 4-way meetings is the presence of some kind of simple snack (nuts, candy, etc); a little something to perk up the ol’ blood sugar over the course of a long collaborative session. But sharing Continue reading…

June 6, 2014

Listening – One of Your Best Negotiation Tools

Categories: Divorce

When we are in a disagreement, listening to the other person can be difficult.  For whatever reason, be it cultural or otherwise, our natural instinct is to spend all our energy talking and “convincing” instead of genuinely listening to the Continue reading…