Tag Archives: keeping children at the center

September 18, 2015

3 Ways to Support Children in Divorce

Divorce is a challenging life experience for children, and parents worry what the impact will be on their children’s lives.  Based on my work with families of divorce, I have three specific suggestions for how parents can empathetically support their Continue reading…

September 14, 2015

Co-Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex

Categories: Divorce

Co-parenting can be challenging even in the most amicable divorces, but there are some personalities disorders that make co-parenting downright difficult. Among these include, but are not limited to: bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder. We are Continue reading…

September 6, 2015

Giving Children Hope

Today I met with two very attuned and caring parents who have, after many efforts at repair,  made the decision to end their marriage. Topmost on their list of concerns was the impact their divorce might have on their children, Continue reading…

August 26, 2015

The Importance of Attachment: Part I

Attachment is the term used to describe the emotional relationship between two people.  The earliest and most significant attachment develops between an infant and his or her primary caregivers.  This attachment is based on how consistently, accurately and soothingly the Continue reading…

August 17, 2015

Collaborative Law Check In

As a collaborative law professional, I work with divorcing couples on out-of-court resolutions that meet big picture goals and interests. It is challenging work that I have dedicated my career to and I strive daily to provide the highest level Continue reading…

August 16, 2015

The Fallacy of Fifty-Fifty Parenting

One of the most common requests we hear from divorcing clients with children, is that they want fifty-fifty parenting. What this does is collapse quantity with quality. The two are not synonymous. When it is being said by a father, Continue reading…

August 14, 2015

Why Settle for the Minimum in Divorce When You Can Get More?

In divorce many people hire attorneys with the hope of receiving what the law entitles them to receive.  They focus on their rights and ask their lawyer to help them get what “the law” provides, perhaps believe that this is Continue reading…

August 13, 2015

Investing in your Child’s Future: Divorce Process Matters

Having recently become a grandparent for the first time, I am pondering the future with renewed urgency that my granddaughter’s legacy be one of hope and abundance. As she grows, there is no way to prevent the pain of grief Continue reading…

August 6, 2015

Mom and Dad on the Same Team

A family with whom I am privileged to work on their Collaborative divorce gave me consent to tell this story. A few weeks after completing the two meetings with me that are a typical part of my child-inclusive parenting plan Continue reading…

July 17, 2015

Low Cost, High Quality Divorce the Collaborative Way

As a neutral child specialist, I believe Collaborative Practice should be available to all families who want a child-focused, respectful, out-of-court divorce process.  However, a critique often made of Collaborative Practice is how unaffordable it must be for families with Continue reading…