Tag Archives: divorce with dignity

July 17, 2017

Teamwork in the Midst of Substance Abuse

About 3 and a-half years ago, a family in the Collaborative Divorce  process was working with the Neutral Child Specialist .   It was stated by my client that dad’s alcohol use was the primary basis for her seeking the divorce. She Continue reading…

June 12, 2017

How to Avoid the Divortex – Part 2

In Part 1, vortex was defined as: 1) a whirling mass of water or air that sucks everything near it towards its center; 2) a place or situation regarded as drawing into its center all that it surrounds, and hence, Continue reading…

May 8, 2017

Stick and Stones May Break My Bones, But Names Will Never Hurt Me

Remember hearing that as a child?  I do.  I said it.  I believed it.  And then I didn’t.  Names DO hurt, even if they aren’t “really bad, mean names.”  They can burn a memory into your brain that can haunt Continue reading…

October 4, 2016

Leaving Litigation Behind

A collaborative law colleague recently wrote a lovely piece in the Boston Globe describing his reasons for leaving his litigation practice behind and representing clients only in alternative dispute resolution processes. His article resonated greatly with me. I too left Continue reading…

September 29, 2016

A Few Thoughts On Death and Divorce

Categories: Divorce

I have been fortunate enough to make it into my later in life years before experiencing the death of family and friends close to me. My parents were the first losses from my immediate family, followed by an older sister. Continue reading…

August 29, 2016

Growing from Your Divorce

In the early days of separation and divorce you may find the idea of growing from your divorce difficult to believe. You may be in a state of depression or denial wondering how your life will carry on, much less Continue reading…

August 23, 2016

The Greek Chorus During Divorce

Categories: Divorce

When getting divorced, it is important to have a support network.  Having a sounding board and friends to talk through things with can help you evaluate options.  They can remind you that you are not alone.  Acquaintances who have gone Continue reading…

August 8, 2016

One Gray Day

In 1967 when I was starting my first career out of college, I ordered a charter subscription to a new magazine – Psychology Today. I read with fascination the multitude of articles on a variety of topics. One that caught Continue reading…

June 30, 2016

What Would a Court Do: Property Division and Cash Flow (Part 2)

As a collaborative attorney, I am often asked “what would a court do?”  Although parties in a collaborative divorce are not asking the court to make decisions in their case, what the law is and how a court may view Continue reading…

May 24, 2016

Divorce: Opportunity to Confront Fear

Categories: Divorce

Fear is one of the most innate underpinnings of humanity. Indeed, in our earliest stages of development, fear was essential to our very survival. When we lived in a physical environment that posed regular and daily threats to our existence Continue reading…