Tag Archives: conflict in divorce

June 12, 2017

How to Avoid the Divortex – Part 2

In Part 1, vortex was defined as: 1) a whirling mass of water or air that sucks everything near it towards its center; 2) a place or situation regarded as drawing into its center all that it surrounds, and hence, Continue reading…

May 8, 2017

Stick and Stones May Break My Bones, But Names Will Never Hurt Me

Remember hearing that as a child?  I do.  I said it.  I believed it.  And then I didn’t.  Names DO hurt, even if they aren’t “really bad, mean names.”  They can burn a memory into your brain that can haunt Continue reading…

May 1, 2017

When Families are Unsupportive Part 2

Categories: Divorce

This is the second of our two part blog series on unsupportive families during divorce. The first dealt with the challenges of when family is having a difficult time letting an ex go, which can be read here. Here we Continue reading…

September 30, 2016

We Are More Alike, Than We Are Unalike – Maya Angelou

My family is going through Olympic withdrawal.  Well, O.K., not really.  But we watched the events we were interested in and rooted for Team U.S.A.  Of course, Michael Phelps stole the show, and Ryan Lochte stole the…well, let’s not go Continue reading…

September 6, 2016

A Reluctant Spouse

As many know, because Minnesota is a no fault divorce state, one spouse not being ready does not need to stop the process from moving forward. The ready spouse can file for divorce and the process moves on in court Continue reading…

August 17, 2016

Please Don’t Argue in Front of ANYONE’S Kids at Swimming Lessons

My husband and I were taking our kids to swimming lessons when we saw a man and woman standing outside the facility arguing.  The anger and negative energy were palpable.  While still in the parking lot, we met up with Continue reading…

July 18, 2016

Divorce in the Public Eye

Nearly every celebrity seems to have a divorce under their belt, but what about our local public figures – our children’s teachers, our mayors, city councilmen – how does the pubic feel about “those” public figures when they are facing Continue reading…

June 7, 2016

Don’t Be So Sure of Yourself

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

I’ve written blogs about the value of learning how to be comfortable living in uncertainty. I’ve written about the problems that spring from being uncomfortable with ambiguity. I’ve talked about how unreliable it is to hold on to cherished beliefs, Continue reading…

April 26, 2016

When In Doubt, Relax

Categories: Divorce

Just read a fascinating article by Jesse Singal titled, “The Bad Things That Happen When People Can’t Deal With Ambigous Situations”. For some time now I’ve been hearing that we humans are meaning making machines – driven by a compulsion Continue reading…

April 19, 2016

The First Agreement: Words Matter

The Four Agreements is a best-selling book by Don Miguel Ruiz that articulates principles people can choose to follow to stay out of conflict with others.  These principles are extremely relevant and helpful for parents going through a divorce or Continue reading…