Tag Archives: communication

July 10, 2017

How to Avoid the Divortex – Part 3

In parts 1 and 2, we defined vortex as: 1) a whirling mass of water or air that sucks everything near it towards its center; 2) a place or situation regarded as drawing into its center all that it surrounds, Continue reading…

May 8, 2017

Stick and Stones May Break My Bones, But Names Will Never Hurt Me

Remember hearing that as a child?  I do.  I said it.  I believed it.  And then I didn’t.  Names DO hurt, even if they aren’t “really bad, mean names.”  They can burn a memory into your brain that can haunt Continue reading…

May 1, 2017

When Families are Unsupportive Part 2

Categories: Divorce

This is the second of our two part blog series on unsupportive families during divorce. The first dealt with the challenges of when family is having a difficult time letting an ex go, which can be read here. Here we Continue reading…

September 6, 2016

A Reluctant Spouse

As many know, because Minnesota is a no fault divorce state, one spouse not being ready does not need to stop the process from moving forward. The ready spouse can file for divorce and the process moves on in court Continue reading…

August 17, 2016

Please Don’t Argue in Front of ANYONE’S Kids at Swimming Lessons

My husband and I were taking our kids to swimming lessons when we saw a man and woman standing outside the facility arguing.  The anger and negative energy were palpable.  While still in the parking lot, we met up with Continue reading…

August 4, 2016

Connecting with People Instead of Profiles

Making online connections is easier than ever with modern social media apps. It is not necessary to know someone at all, let alone to know them well, in order to see their profiles and get an idea of who they Continue reading…

July 25, 2016

Making Book on, Like, Facebook

Categories: Collaborative Law

I was thinking about the incredibly wide range of preferences we humans have. Wow. But see what I’ve done? I’ve selected an amazingly large category from which to choose. It’s like, lets talk about the ocean. How about we men; Continue reading…

July 12, 2016

Listening First, Speaking Later

Categories: Divorce

After dinner one evening, my two-year-old was playing with her brother’s indominus rex (she likes dinosaurs).  She climbed up to her bathroom sink, grabbed her toothbrush, climbed down, plopped herself down on the floor, and…much to my dismay…brushed the dino’s Continue reading…

June 7, 2016

Don’t Be So Sure of Yourself

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

I’ve written blogs about the value of learning how to be comfortable living in uncertainty. I’ve written about the problems that spring from being uncomfortable with ambiguity. I’ve talked about how unreliable it is to hold on to cherished beliefs, Continue reading…

April 19, 2016

The First Agreement: Words Matter

The Four Agreements is a best-selling book by Don Miguel Ruiz that articulates principles people can choose to follow to stay out of conflict with others.  These principles are extremely relevant and helpful for parents going through a divorce or Continue reading…