Tag Archives: child specialist

July 10, 2017

How to Avoid the Divortex – Part 3

In parts 1 and 2, we defined vortex as: 1) a whirling mass of water or air that sucks everything near it towards its center; 2) a place or situation regarded as drawing into its center all that it surrounds, Continue reading…

May 15, 2017

Family Specialist: Co-Parenting after Divorce

Categories: Divorce

I once heard that parenting books are one of the largest segments in non-fiction publishing.  Everyone apparently thinks they have tips and ideas to help others parent.  As a collaborative divorce attorney, clients often seek guidance and support in co-parenting Continue reading…

August 17, 2016

Please Don’t Argue in Front of ANYONE’S Kids at Swimming Lessons

My husband and I were taking our kids to swimming lessons when we saw a man and woman standing outside the facility arguing.  The anger and negative energy were palpable.  While still in the parking lot, we met up with Continue reading…

September 11, 2015

The Collaborative “Team”: The Role of The Divorcing Couple (and Their Family)

The most important members of the collaborative team are the divorcing couple themselves. By choosing a collaborative process, they are agreeing to show up at the table, even when the conversations and decisions are difficult, even when emotions run high. Continue reading…

July 6, 2015

The Collaborative “Team”

The first thing that sets a Collaborative case apart is the Participation Agreement, a mindful choice by the couple to come to the table, with their support system, gather information, make informed choices, and negotiate a resolution. For a discussion Continue reading…

June 4, 2015

The Wisdom of the Child Specialist

I am working on a case in which the parties have elected to use the services of a neutral child specialist to evaluate the parties’ two children (9 and 12), to communicate her findings, and to help design a parenting Continue reading…

May 14, 2015

Don’t Forget About ‘The Team’

Categories: Collaborative LawDivorce

I have finally fulfilled my responsibility as a new member of the Collaborative Law Institute to take the two-part training, known as the New Collaborative Experience. The training, which takes place over two Fridays a week apart, is generally offered Continue reading…

May 11, 2015

The Art of Present Moment Parenting

I have known Tina Feigal for about eight years, and over that time have talked with her several times about the unique work she does coaching parents to become effective while dealing with challenging children. In this blog I am Continue reading…

April 8, 2015

The Participation Agreement – What’s The Big Deal?

A hallmark of a Collaborative case is that the participants have signed a “Participation Agreement.” This document may seem insignificant, but in fact it has great meaning for the process, signifying that the couple has made a conscious choice to Continue reading…

January 27, 2015

Becoming the Best Parent I Can Be

In a recent first meeting with new clients, I was obtaining family history to help ground me in both parents’ perspectives on issues related to their divorce. A comment by the dad struck a chord for me. He said, “I Continue reading…