Every other Wednesday, I volunteer in my daughter’s second grade class. When I visit her classroom, I enjoy reading the various tenets of behavior on the classroom walls and consider how peaceful the world would be, if we all followed them. One of my favorites reads:
Before your speak, THINK
T – is it true?
H – is it helpful?
I – is it inspiring?
N – is it necessary?
K – is it kind?
I believe this particular tenet resonates with me because, as an attorney, I was trained to use my words strategically. Words are to be used like a scalpel – with precision but nonetheless, for cutting. When I started practicing collaborative family law, I was heartened to retool my mind and my language in order to use words as a bridge, connecting people and re-framing their disputes for peaceful resolution.
I continue to use words with precision, but now in an effort to be helpful, inspiring and kind. My collaborative family law practice allows me to be a skillful wordsmith without the carnage.
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