September 12, 2013

Kids and Divorce – 3 Tips on How To Stay Organized In Two Homes

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

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As the parent of an elementary and junior high student, I assumed that my most challenging years of parenting would occur before my children entered school. Although in many ways parenting has become easier (no diapers or safety locks), in other ways it has become much more complicated as our family assumes the activity calendars for two more members. Calendars have become a moving target in our family and only in rare moments do I feel in control.

When it comes to divorce and co-parenting between two homes, the challenge of staying organized increases. With the school year underway, here are some suggestions for keeping two homes organized, in sync and running as smoothly as possible!

  1. Use an online calendar. Keep track of the school calendar, sports and other activities, and even the church calendar online so both parents have access to the same upcoming dates. One calendar for the entire family will help alleviate confusion and frustration. You can assign various colors for each child or each activity.
  2. Share documents online. Having access to important documents such as vaccination or other medical records, health insurance information, school releases or classroom newsletters online can help save time when trying to coordinate between the homes and sharing information. Such systems as “Google Docs” or “Dropbox” allow more than one user to access and share the same documents. Create folders such as “Health,” “After-school Activities,” etc., to house the specific documents.
  3. Start a regular family meeting. Meet weekly or twice monthly at the beginning of the week to connect in person and discuss important upcoming events. Have one member lead the meeting and create an agenda. Another family member can take notes and then share the information generated from the meeting. These meeting notes can be kept in your document sharing system. Our family started this tradition after I read “Positive Discipline” by Jane Nelsen – we have found it to be an invaluable tool for not only staying on top of upcoming events but also staying connected with our kids.

 

Elizabeth I. WrobelABOUT THE AUTHOR
Elizabeth Wrobel

Elizabeth Wrobel, JD is a partner with Wrobel & Smith, PLLP. She practices in the areas of collaborative family law and health insurance disputes. Although Elizabeth’s legal roots are in government practice, she now enjoys working directly with real people and their real-life challenges. Elizabeth’s passion for helping families is met in her collaborative law practice where she can use creative problem solving to assist families through the challenges of transition. Elizabeth understands that conflict can be expected, but how the professionals respond and guide a couple through divorce is critical in minimizing the harm.

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