Category Archives: Mental Health

February 18, 2016

Setting Realistic Expectations for the Year Ahead

Categories: DivorceFamily LawMental Health

2016 is well underway and many will look at the new year as a new beginning. While it’s important to have a positive outlook on the year ahead, sometimes the changing of the calendar year can create a false sense Continue reading…

February 10, 2016

What I’m Not Saying

Listening to the voice of the child is increasingly becoming a mainstream concept in family law.  This is a welcome development, as careful attunement to children’s perspectives and needs can guide resolutions and parenting plans that are truly in the Continue reading…

January 19, 2016

Observations Following the Holidays

Categories: DivorceMental Health

One of the true joys of the holidays is being able to spend time with friends and relatives that we may not get to see very often. Despite the joy however, there may also be stress from being confined with Continue reading…

January 5, 2016

New Years Resolutions

As 2016 begins, many of us come up with resolutions for the coming year. Some people hope to exercise more, spend more time as a family or plan a vacation. For families who have divorced, the new year often symbolizes Continue reading…

January 4, 2016

For Better or For Worse: Marriage According to the Simpsons Part II

In my earlier post I looked at some considerations that have created an anomaly – a dysfunctional couple who score high in marriage satisfaction. I looked at a conventional psychological model, called the Investment Model. (1) This model applies three Continue reading…

December 21, 2015

For Better or For Worse: Marriage According to the Simpsons, Part I

Categories: DivorceMental Health

I’ve been thinking about how much challenge it can be to make a marriage work and keep it working. That had me start thinking about one of America’s most dysfunctional couples who happen the be a pretty good model what Continue reading…

October 21, 2015

Helping Children Cope with the Stress of Divorce

Your divorce probably has you feeling like everything is beyond your control. Now imagine the lack of control your children are feeling. Yesterday they had a family with two parents living under the same roof, and today their family life Continue reading…

October 18, 2015

Carry Moonbeams Home in a Jar

Categories: DivorceMental Health

The creativity of the genius has been largely romanticized. The movie, Amadeus, portrayed Mozart to be a sort of idiot savant – divinely inspired to compose music in his head from whole cloth. Those of us who labor to achieve Continue reading…

October 14, 2015

The Second Agreement

Categories: DivorceMental HealthParents

Some time ago I wrote about The Four Agreements from a book by the same name by Don Miguel Ruiz. Ruiz believes we can stay out of conflict if each person makes the following agreements with him or herself: 1.  Continue reading…

September 22, 2015

Children in High Conflict Families

We live in a bell curve world. By that I simply mean that all manner of traits and characteristics can be viewed as occurring in a distribution throughout society that clumps more numbers in the middle, and fewer numbers on Continue reading…