Category Archives: Mental Health

May 20, 2018

ASD, Lockdowns, and Valentine’s Day 2018 – Part 2

April is Autism Awareness Month, the two month anniversary of the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School shooting, and the 19th anniversary of Columbine.  Why talk about ASD and school shootings in the same sentence?  And why a divorce blog?  I Continue reading…

March 4, 2018

ASD, Lockdowns, and Valentine’s Day 2018 – Part 1

OK – this has nothing to do with divorce – or maybe it does. Valentine’s Day.  Yes, I know, it was two weeks ago.  And for people going through divorce, Valentine’s Day was perhaps just another day.  On the other Continue reading…

January 13, 2018

Three Stories of Empathy

Empathy is the word for the capacity to understand another person’s perspective or experience without necessarily agreeing with it.  Empathy allows humans to be in synch and resonate with each other in spite of differences.  There is plentiful scientific and Continue reading…

July 17, 2017

Teamwork in the Midst of Substance Abuse

About 3 and a-half years ago, a family in the Collaborative Divorce  process was working with the Neutral Child Specialist .   It was stated by my client that dad’s alcohol use was the primary basis for her seeking the divorce. She Continue reading…

May 8, 2017

Stick and Stones May Break My Bones, But Names Will Never Hurt Me

Remember hearing that as a child?  I do.  I said it.  I believed it.  And then I didn’t.  Names DO hurt, even if they aren’t “really bad, mean names.”  They can burn a memory into your brain that can haunt Continue reading…

September 7, 2016

Five Simple Rules for Happiness, In Honor of Happiness Month (August)

Categories: Mental Health

Although happiness can sometimes seem elusive, keeping in mind the 5 Simple Rules for Happiness below will help: Free your mind from hatred Free your mind from worries Live simply Give more Expect Less It struck me one day that Continue reading…

September 6, 2016

A Reluctant Spouse

As many know, because Minnesota is a no fault divorce state, one spouse not being ready does not need to stop the process from moving forward. The ready spouse can file for divorce and the process moves on in court Continue reading…

August 17, 2016

Please Don’t Argue in Front of ANYONE’S Kids at Swimming Lessons

My husband and I were taking our kids to swimming lessons when we saw a man and woman standing outside the facility arguing.  The anger and negative energy were palpable.  While still in the parking lot, we met up with Continue reading…

August 4, 2016

Connecting with People Instead of Profiles

Making online connections is easier than ever with modern social media apps. It is not necessary to know someone at all, let alone to know them well, in order to see their profiles and get an idea of who they Continue reading…

August 3, 2016

How to Fill Your New “Free Time”

Those married, and especially with children, might dream of having a quiet Saturday night to themselves, but for many divorcees, especially those newly divorced this new “free time” can be especially lonely. You might not be ready or wanting to Continue reading…