Category Archives: Marriage Reconciliation

March 24, 2016

Why Principled Negotiations are Preferred

I recently saw an article about Choosing Your Battles and Fight for What Actually Matters. Wow, I thought, what a stagnant place to live! Fighting comes out of two related concepts: participating in games and competitions, or engaging in war. Continue reading…

January 11, 2016

A Time For Reflection

The darkness of winter has long been a time for people from all cultures to pause and reflect upon their life. It is a good to cultivate a practice to set aside a specific time to look back over the Continue reading…

January 4, 2016

For Better or For Worse: Marriage According to the Simpsons Part II

In my earlier post I looked at some considerations that have created an anomaly – a dysfunctional couple who score high in marriage satisfaction. I looked at a conventional psychological model, called the Investment Model. (1) This model applies three Continue reading…

October 7, 2015

So, Your Spouse Wants a Divorce

Your spouse has just told you they want a divorce. This may cause a number of different kinds of responses from you. You might be well prepared emotionally, as this issue has been raised a number of times already. You Continue reading…

September 27, 2015

The Power of Conversation

“The greatest single antidote to violence is conversation” – Jonathan Sacks I heard the quote above a while ago, and it has stuck with me. As I’ve been mulling it over, I have seen parallels to what I do as Continue reading…

October 14, 2014

Empty Nest Collaborative Divorce

People who are facing divorce after many years of marriage, or just later in life, face unique challenges. They are less connected by the need to provide daily care and financial support for their children. They also may be facing Continue reading…

August 26, 2014

Helping the Reluctant Spouse Accept Divorce

Starting a divorce can be difficult, particularly if your spouse believes the marriage can be saved. How you have this discussion may make a major difference in your life, particularly if you have children. In my thirty years of working Continue reading…

May 28, 2014

Hey There, You With the Stars in Your Eyes…

In my previous post I raised the counter intuitive prospect of considering things from the perspective of one getting ready to seek a divorce, but doing this while putting together a pre-marital agreement prior to your wedding. The book, Considering Continue reading…

December 30, 2013

I Don’t Want a Divorce

It is not uncommon for two people to come to divorce at very different points in readiness. In fact, one spouse may not want the divorce at all. You may not have anticipated your spouse wanting a divorce, but that Continue reading…

September 4, 2013

Friends Don’t Let Friends Divorce Badly: 5 Ways to Help Your Friends During a Difficult Time

Divorce is never truly good. But a bad divorce can create many years of devastation.  If you have a friend or family member approaching divorce it can be difficult to watch the economic and emotional turmoil unfold, particularly if there Continue reading…