Monthly Archives: January 2016

January 28, 2016

Real Women Shovel Snow (and Real Men Wash Baby Bottles)

Categories: DivorceFamily LawParents

Most couples have rather specific roles in their marriage. After all, a marriage/family is like a team and everyone needs to do their part for the household to run smoothly. It’s not uncommon for Dad to fill a more traditional Continue reading…

January 26, 2016

Childfocused Resolutions

Categories: Children in DivorceDivorceParents

Here are five suggestions for how divorcing parents can provide support to their children in the new year: 1.  Keep expectations realistic.  Children go through a grieving process just as their parents do when the marriage ends.  Their energy and Continue reading…

January 25, 2016

Patience & Divorce

Having friends scattered throughout the country has shown me just how drastic divorce proceedings and turnarounds can be. My friend in Baltimore, Maryland, who was married for 5 years with no kids, had no battles over property division, and her Continue reading…

January 19, 2016

Observations Following the Holidays

Categories: DivorceMental Health

One of the true joys of the holidays is being able to spend time with friends and relatives that we may not get to see very often. Despite the joy however, there may also be stress from being confined with Continue reading…

January 14, 2016

Writing Your Own Story for 2016

With the new year comes new beginnings, and while your divorce may have you feeling like everything is spinning out of your control, let’s start 2016 with you IN control. Take some time to journal about what you want 2016 Continue reading…

January 13, 2016

The First Steps in My Collaborative Case

Yesterday, I attended the first joint meeting in my first Collaborative case.  We reviewed and signed the Participation Agreement and Joint Petition, and the four of us progressed efficiently through the agenda that I had proposed. My beginner’s anxiety about Continue reading…

January 11, 2016

A Time For Reflection

The darkness of winter has long been a time for people from all cultures to pause and reflect upon their life. It is a good to cultivate a practice to set aside a specific time to look back over the Continue reading…

January 8, 2016

Delay, Delay, Delay!

During the first joint meeting of my Collaborative case, the parties agreed that an interest they shared was the efficiency of the process.  My client in particular was concerned about the case dragging on, as she was still living with Continue reading…

January 5, 2016

New Years Resolutions

As 2016 begins, many of us come up with resolutions for the coming year. Some people hope to exercise more, spend more time as a family or plan a vacation. For families who have divorced, the new year often symbolizes Continue reading…

January 4, 2016

For Better or For Worse: Marriage According to the Simpsons Part II

In my earlier post I looked at some considerations that have created an anomaly – a dysfunctional couple who score high in marriage satisfaction. I looked at a conventional psychological model, called the Investment Model. (1) This model applies three Continue reading…